Parents put enormous influence over their children’s development like talking and reading to infants to making values clear. Raising a happy, healthy child is one of the most challenging jobs a parent can have. And it is also one of the most rewarding. Yet many of us don’t approach parenting with the same focus we would use for a job. We may act on our gut reactions or just use the same parenting skills.
Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation, and cheerfulness. It also promotes intellectual curiosity, motivation, and encourages a desire to achieve. Good parenting also helps protect children from developing anxiety, depression, eating disorders, antisocial behavior, and alcohol and drug abuse.
Today’s precocious preteens often shock parents when they begin to act like teenagers. Don’t be fooled, they’re still children. They’ll astonish you with their ability to conceptualize, to argue brilliantly, and then to do foolish things.
The middle school years are a time of magical blossoming. But like all huge transitions in our kids’ lives, they’re filled with ups and downs. Parents often don’t accept and constructively negotiate their child’s blossoming independence. It usually invites rebellion, or even worse, deception.
The biggest danger for teens is losing the connection to parents while struggling to find their place and connect in their peer world. The biggest danger for parents is trying to parent through power instead of through relationship. Thus it erodes their bond and losing their influence on their child as she moves into the teen years.
You’re probably not going to get a lot out of your child if you say, : “Let’s sit down and talk.’’ Instead, do something together your child likes and let the conversation happen. Spending more time with him now will help build the bridges you’ll need later. Your consistent presence in your child’s life will help your child feel comfortable with talking to you if something bothers him.
When tensions are high, your child is not going to be in a position to open up to you. Engage early and often, before there is a problem. This way you will develop a rapport with your child that will be very important when an actual crisis arises. Remember, it’s impossible to build a bridge in the middle of a quake, but a bridge built earlier may be flexible and sturdy enough to ward off a quake when it comes. A relationship is just like that. Its foundation and flexible nature are important ingredients of happiness. Here’s what happens in the middle school years: our children become more and more independent. In 6th grade, it’s the transition between elementary and middle school. There’s a bit more coddling in their academic setting, and the students have a healthy sense of unease as they enter the social world of middle school. By the end of 6fth grade, they’ve pretty much got it all figured out. And their social world bursts open with wild abandon. For the next two years, they think they are standing at the mountain top and they know it all. mood swings are rampant, popularity becomes a curse and a blessing, body image, attire, and being cool all take precedence over anything else.
Many kids get their first cell phone as they hit the preteen years, because they start to spend more time away from home. That first cell phone needs to come with written rules and responsibilities in the form of a signed contract, so your child learns how to handle it responsibly.
India has the second highest number of obese children, after China, at a staggering number of 14.4 million kids. *with a widespread prevalence of eating junk and increasingly fatty foods on one hand and starving deliberately on the other, children develop eating disorders and parents play a vital role in helping their children maintain a healthy diet. So as parents, do encourage your children to eat healthy and nutritious snacks and make sure that they indulge in daily physical exercise, preferably playing games.